משנה: דֶּרֶךְ תַּלְמִידֵי חֲכָמִים עַד שֶׁלֹּא הָֽיְתָה בִתּוֹ יוֹצְאָה מֵאֶצְלוֹ אוֹמֵר לָהּ. כָּל־נְדָרִם שֶׁנָּדַרְתְּ בְּתוֹךְ בֵּיתִי הֲרֵי הֵן מוּפָרִין. וְכֵן הַבַּעַל עַד שֶׁלֹּא תִיכָּנֵס לִרְשׁוּתוֹ אוֹמֵר לָהּ כָּל־נְדָרִים שֶׁנָּדַרְתְּ עַד שֶׁלֹּא תִיכָּֽנְסִי לְרְשׁוּתִי הֲרֵי הֵן מוּפָרִין. שֶׁמִּשֶּׁתִּיכָּנֵס לִרְשׁוּתוֹ אֵינוֹ יָכוֹל לְהָפֵר. בּוֹגֶרֶת וּשֶׁשָּׁהֲתָה שְׁנים עָשָׂר חֹדֶשׁ וְאַלְמָנָה שְׁלֹשִׁים יוֹם. רִבִּי אֱלִיעֶזֶר אוֹמֵר הוֹאִיל וּבַעֲלָהּ חַייָב בִּמְזוֹנוֹתֶיהָ יָפֵר וַחֲכָמִים אוֹמְרִים אֵין הַבַּעַל מֵיפֵר עַד שֶׁתִּיכָּנֵס לִרְשׁוּתוֹ. MISHNAH: “The way of learned people is that, before his daughter left his house, he told her: ‘Any vows which you had vowed in my house are dissolved’. Similarly, the husband tells her before she enters his domain40I. e., before the final marriage ceremony.: ‘Any vows which you had vowed before you enter my domain are dissolved,’ for after she enters his domain he cannot dissolve30Mishnah 4. The quote does not prove anything; the proof is from the second part of the Mishnah which requires the husband to dissolve all prior vows of his bride prior to her entering his house, i. e., as long as she still is only preliminarily married. After she enters his house, he can no longer dissolve prior vows. Since the final marriage ceremony emancipated the girl (older than three years and one day) from her father and the father’s death does the same, it is concluded that the husband’s power over a preliminarily married girl endures only as long as she is under her father’s tutelage..
An adult girl and one who had waited41A different text of the Babylonian Mishnah is amended in the Halakhah there to the Yerushalmi text. twelve months and a widow 30 days42Mishnah Ketubot 5:2 states that a girl who never was married before has 12 months after the preliminary marriage to prepare her trousseau and a widow 30 days. An adult girl, for whom the father no longer has responsibility, is supposed to have a trousseau by the twelfth month of her adulthood and can marry immediately (cf. the commentary ascribed to Rashi to the Babli, 73b, and Halakhah Ketubot 5:3). If the groom does not bring her into his house by the appointed time (by means of the final marriage ceremony), he nevertheless becomes resposible for her upkeep as if he were completely married., Rebbi Eliezer says, since her husband is responsible for her upkeep he may dissolve but the Sages say that the husband dissolves only after she enters his domain.
הלכה: בּוֹגֶרֶת וְשֶׁשָׁהֲתָה שְׁנָים עָשָׂר חֹדֶשׁ כול׳. מִיסְבַּר סָבַר רִבִּי אֱלִיעֶזֶר דְּבִמְזוֹנוֹת הַדָּבָר תָּלוּי. קִידֵּשׁ אִשָּׁה עַל מְנָת לָזוּן הַבַּעַל מֵיפֵר לָהּ. נָשָׂא אִשָׁה עַל מְנָת לָזוּן הָאָב מֵיפֵר לָהּ. דִּבְרֵי חֲכָמִים. רִבִּי יַעֲקֹב בַּר אָחָא בְשֵׁם רִבִּי יוֹחָנָן. לְעוֹלָם אֵין הַבַּעַל מֵיפֵר עַד שֶׁתִּיכָּנֵס לִרְשׁוּתוֹ. HALAKHAH: “An adult girl and one who had waited twelve months,” etc. Rebbi Eliezer holds that the matter depends on the support. If he preliminarily married a woman on condition to support her43He agrees to support his wife from the time of the preliminary marriage., the husband dissolves for her44Without the father’s concurrence.. If he completely married a woman on condition that he45The father. support her, the father dissolves for her46Without the husband’s concurrence. This paragraph has been emended by the standard commentaries to mean the opposite it says.. The words of the Sages? Rebbi Jacob bar Aḥa in the name of Rebbi Joḥanan: The husband never dissolves47Alone. before she enters his domain.